SHOULD I GET INTO A NEW RELATIONSHIP IMMEDIATELY AFTER BREAKING UP?
Rules of love #2 –
Get over it before you get on with it.
BabsHilton:
I totally agree with the writer on this. Yes! Get over your break up before heading into another relationship. Most people are on the look-out for another partner once they break up because they feel being in a relationship is what gives them uttermost peace. But the fact still remains that, if you can’t find peace with-in, none can come with-out. So rediscover yourself, get yourself back together and note the mistakes you made in the last relationship before heading into another.
I totally agree with the writer on this. Yes! Get over your break up before heading into another relationship. Most people are on the look-out for another partner once they break up because they feel being in a relationship is what gives them uttermost peace. But the fact still remains that, if you can’t find peace with-in, none can come with-out. So rediscover yourself, get yourself back together and note the mistakes you made in the last relationship before heading into another.
Rhoda: Why must I
get over it before heading into another? There’s a guy who’s been coming
around, all caring, loving and romantic, obviously better than my ex, the Mr charming I’ve been waiting for, for
ages. I have to get over my break up? What if he gets tired of waiting? So
I should let him go because I want to ‘rediscover’ myself? What am I rediscovering in the first place?
BabsHilton: Trust
me, a break up comes with hurts, hatred etc, depending on the how that person can
control his or her emotions. Not
everyone is at their real selves when emotionally down, especially after a
break-up. Now, this Prince charming comes, meets you in your not too real
self and falls in love with that current personality of yours. You, needing the
care and all goodies he brings also falls in ‘love’ and eventually heeds to his
request to be an item. A time will come when your wounded heart will be healed
and your original being resurfaces. Trust me, your ‘Prince Charming’ won’t see
anything charming in you anymore. Unless he’s a rare kind, compatible with
either an independent or dependent lady.
Rhoda: Love should be given to who you feel
deserves it the most. There is a big difference between Consoling and Loving.
That a person has just experienced a break up, does not mean his/her sense of
reasoning also broke down. Common sense should be able to tell you the
difference between someone who is consoling you and someone who is loving you
genuinely. Yes, there’s a thin line that separates love from feelings,
therefore your eyes should be open, you know the state at which you are, so you
shouldn’t be deceived. Apply common
sense to love or else you will keep getting hurt. So, I feel one can get
into another relationship even after a breakup as long as they are in their
right senses and they are giving their heart to the right person.
BabsHilton: Rhoda
is speaking from the strong lady’s point of view, but I must let you know that
not all ladies are emotionally strong. There
are the weak ones whom it takes time for their emotional wounds to heal. Guys
take advantage of these ladies, lure them into their arms and in the end they
get heart-broken again. I had a friend who kept finding herself in this
situation and as a result hates men. I would agree with you on the common sense
statement. But like they say, common sense is not common, however when it comes
to issues of the heart, please ladies and gentlemen obtain and apply it. So I would advice, if you’re emotionally
weak, take your time, let your wounds heal before getting into another. Now
that’s common sense (smiles).
SHOULD ONE REMAIN IN
CONTACT WITH ONE’S EX?
Rhoda: Well to an
extent, yes. There should be a level of
trust between a couple. The man should be able to assess the relationship
between him and his ex, his partner should be able to also. When/if it can’t be
assessed, an inquiry can be made to ascertain what exactly is between them. If it is certain that there’s nothing but
friendship between them, it’s ok, they can still be in contact.
BabsHilton: I
totally disagree with you. No one would
like his/her partner to still be in contact with their ex. I will make this
explanation as practical as possible. Rhoda, as a lady who is in a relationship
with a guy you really love, how would you feel if his ex keeps calling? What would
you think?
Rhoda: Keeps Calling? Why should she keep calling?
BabsHilton: You
see! There you go people. No one, not even Rhoda would allow an ex pry into her
relationship. So my take on this is - an
ex should be an ex and remain there. Shikena.
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